I finally left the church. I wasn't my mother's daughter, after all. Unlike mama, I couldn't sit still every Sunday and pretend that life was great outside the walls.
I was too exhausted to try to atone. Besides, I had seen first hand the vanity of atonement. My mother tried for most of her life in vain. She finally understood she was forgiven.
Mama accepted the love and forgiveness she was offered. I couldn't. I had done things to myself and others with my eyes wide open. I knew but I couldn't shrug off sin easily.
I met and fell in love with a rising music star. Mama warned me he was no good but I had plugged my ears with his sweet nothings.
I got pregnant and he discarded me. He said I was just one among many. I was too afraid of the responsibility and extremely terrified of the shame, so I aborted.
They tell you the foetus is just a gathering of tissues, and that you're not killing something that isn't even formed. They say it is your body and you have a right to decide what you do with it. Nobody tells you about the pain, the guilt, and the disillusionment.
The nurses and counselors weren't there to hold my hands every time I would wake up in cold sweat from a terrifying dream. Nobody got to live with the aftereffect of my choices. Only me.
I couldn't stand mama's knowing eyes and sad look. I couldn't stand her pitiful whispers in prayers, so I moved out of the house and left the church.
I found out first-hand why mama stayed all those years. It wasn't just that she was atoning. Mama had experienced both worlds and she found comfort within the walls that were missing outside.
Life was a downward spiral. I knew I was dying.
"When you eat the fruit of the knowledge of good and evil, you will surely die."
I never understood why God said that and it didn't happen. It seemed the devil was on to something when he said, "You will surely not die."
I realized like Adam and Eve must have that separation from God is the worst kind of death. It was the absence of life, peace, and joy.
After wandering and feeding on pigs' pods for months, I knew as surely as the prodigal did, that it was time to go home.
So I did. And while I was still a long way off, He came and wrapped solid arms around me. He called me Beloved and said I was Forgiven.
He gave me a new garment and gave me a Purpose to call all who are far off. To call you Home because you are His Beloved and you are Forgiven.
Par: Jules
Wow! Grace is everything! Thank you for sharing, Sam.
ReplyDeleteYes indeed. Your pieces are always filled with Hope. Thank you Jules.
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